Never thought I would be like this.

At the beginning of this year, 2011, i wanted to lose weight. I had wanted to lose weight from middle 2010 but my will power had stopped me. 2011 was the dawn of depression and struggles. I was 11 stone 4 pounds maybe more in January 2011. I wanted to lose weight, but the healthy way, so i dieted, cut down on crap foods and started to introduce exercise into my daily regime. Well more exercise than previous, i have always done some form of sport. I counted calories, lost a pound of 2 each month.

The main reason for my dieting was because in the years 7 and 8, i was bullied. I was called fat and ugly and my world changed. I believed what they said, because, after all they were right. I was fat, i am fat, i was ugly and i am ugly. The diet was a way to control my life as i had not been able to control it for a number of years. I also wanted to lose weight because i didnt want people to see me as fat. As a result my self esteem went down and i still have very low self esteem and worth. I though that getting down to about 9 stone 10 would make me happy, it would make me skinny. Well when i got to 9 stone 10, it didnt make me happy, it didnt feel skinny, i wanted to lose more. So i did. So now im 8 stone 11 and im still not happy. I want to lose more, I want to be skinny. I want control. Yesterday, i lost control, so i am punishing myself now and gaining back the control. I am slowly gaining control of my life.

I still feel incredibly fat and huge and everything horrible. I think people see me and see me as fat and not skinny and pretty and delicate. If i was asked to draw myself i would draw myself and draw things how i see them; HUGE!

My psychologist asks me if i want to stop my eating the way it is, i said i do but i dont because im scared. In other words, no there is nothing wrong with me. But thats is just a front. I know there is something wrong with me, i know i have the beginnings of an eating disorder but im too weak to show it. I dont want to be fat, so i will continue restricting, purging and avoiding food for as long as i can. Until i need to get better.

It may all be very single minded of me to say i wont start recovery until i need to get better. I know i need to get better now, but i cant face it just yet...

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How am i?

so i havant posted in a while, im sorry. Everything has been bad, self harm is bad, eating is bad and purging is bad. All i want lately is to die. All i can think about is dying. It seems the only way out. I have felt so lost and down. Im so down and i dont really have much to say!

A&E

I gave into the urge to self harm. I think the fact that i hadnt done it in a while made the experience worse. I cut really quite deep and i guess it could do with a trip to A&E and yet i cant tell my parents because i am too ashamed. I am ashamed at the fact i am struggling at the moment. Really struggling in fact. It is worse that the first time i went to A&E. It was fairly deep then, this is deeper. I think it will scar pretty well.

I cut because i felt really down as i have done for the past 2 months or so. I had the urges for the past 3 weeks really badly but the reason i didnt cut was more lack of opotune. My parents had constantly been surrounding me as a result of my bad weekend. The urges had congrgated and they have now all come out, kind of. I do still want to do it, but i cant. AHHHH

Apparently food is an enemy!

I hate what i have just eaten and done. I had 1/2 a normal portion of my spaghetti and pork meatballs then i purged only to go back and eat half a portion of ice cream and a tiny bit of jelly. I hate eating these things. I dont want to be doing this to myself, but i feel like i have to because my mind tells me to. Its horrible!

CAMHS

I went to CAMHS today. Mum insisted she would come in to tell him about my eating problem. He said he doesn't specialize in eating problems so he will get advice of the eating disorder clinic for out next appointment. Urgh its so much effort. After the extremely bad weekend i just had, where i was depressed, and still am, and i was also having a really bad time with eating, he was very surprised that i didnt cut. But, if im honest, it was more lack of oportune that it was not needing/wanting to cut. I had many urges through this past week and yet i couldnt cut because my parents have constantly been around me because they worry. So i am alone now and i need to do it. The urge is so strong, and i feel i cant resist it. After 3 weeks without, the urges have congrigated if you like and are waiting to burst out. I dont want to cut, but the urges are getting much harder to ignore.

Moving on, He also asked me if i had done drugs and alcohol. I told the truth and said no to the drugs (he never pursued the alcohol further), i have been offered drugs and i said no because my parents would shoot me. He seemed to have quite a vast knowledge of weed and, untill he elaborated and said that he used to do it, i was like hmmmm.... He then told me it give you 'the munchies' and i didnt know that, well i did, sort of!

The one thing that bugged me, was he took my weight and height and weighed me 2 whole KG over what i actually weigh. This was probable due to wearing jeans and clunky shoes. But even so he should account for that. It bugged me.
So everything is good with CAMHS and there seems to be no progression with my mood. It will come with time.

Diagnosed with depression

I went to the doctor on Monday as i had a really bad weekend and mum and dad were concerned. As they should be. So i went to the doctors and he asked me about my mood, took my weight and height and told me my BMI is 18.8... Errrmmmm he got that ab it wrong since i could get to 7 stone 11 lbs and still be a 'healthy' weight. That aside, he further asked me about my mood and said that i have depression. Lovely. He said, if i make a list of everything i will do that day and do it, not only will it stop my mind from wandering into negativity, but it will help stop my self harming. WOOP. STOP! one major mistake, he told me to exercise, Does that mean i am fat? Well my disordered mind says it does, so i am going to be exercising more and when i go back in a month hopefully i will be not fat. I find that hard to believe. I want to get myself out of depression but sometimes (well all the time) i dont see a way out and as i explained it my parents, Its like you are falling and somehow you at rock bottom and you are still falling. Or there is an endless cave and you cant find the way out. I hope to find a way out someday, i dont want to go on medication because its hard to get off. I does make you happy and thats why its hard. I will do it myself.

"EAT" "EAT" "EAT" "YOU'RE WASTING FOOD"

That is what fequently comes from my friends mouth about my eating. I dont care if they understand fully, as i dont understand it yet, but, a little compasion would be nice. It would be nice to not have to fear wating with my friends because i am scared of what they will say. They contantly go "eat!" "eat!" all the time at school and i simply refuse they then say "why dont you eat?" "its a waste of food", they talk behind my back about it. It annoys me. Like i say, i dotn expect them to understand, but it would be nice if they werent 'in my face' about it.

Depression

Being taken to the doctors tomorrow for depression. I want to cry all the time, i feel lost, empty, I don't go out anymore, I have suicidal thoughts and feelings, I feel like my world has been turned upside down. I am constantly down and cant remember the last time i was truly happy. I feel like i have nothing to look forward to. Sometimes not even the smile which protects my true feelings works, that sometimes disappears.

Stop kidding yourself amy

going to stop kiddingg myself that CBT is actually working. It isnt helping at all, its just me and a man in a room and him doing all the talking. I would rather do art therapy or somthing because CBT doesnt help at all, in fact its quite boring. When he says do you understand, i say yes just to move on. I do try and make it work but it doesnt. It doesnt do bad, but it doesnt do any good either. It hasnt stopped my cutting, i still get just as angry. I dont want to go to CAMHS on friday!

Forced recovery

The more people start to force me to recover the more i will repel. Mum and dad are forcing me to recover from the eating disorder that has fiddled its way into my life. At the moment, i am not ready to recover but mum and dad are saying i have to. I think i should be able to go at my own pace. Dad thinks that i will suddenly eat a croissant and bread roll for dinner after a chat last night. PFFT! yeah right! looks like i am going to be exercising more now. I know they love me and want me to get better, but this is taking it too far. I don't want this at the moment. Let me go at my pace!

Dad: "What do you want for breakfast?"
Me: "Nothing"
Dad: "C'mon, you gotta have something"
Me: "No i don't"
Dad: "I will do what ever you want"
Me: "No."

forcing me to eat isn't going to work. I have never eaten breakfast, eating it now wont make a difference!

By them taking control of what i eat and when i recover, will only make it worse!

Im just about ready to give up!

No one understands how much i am struggling at the moment. Seriously, i am just about ready to give up. Everyone is trying to control me and its making me worse. Much worse. My dad told me that mum and him are going to control my every move! Well, if they do, they will realise it will get a lot worse. My mental health is of the up most importance apparently, well if it is so damn important why cant they let me recover at my own pace? Let me decide what i eat, when i eat it and how much of it? Is it so damn fucking hard? They seem to be forcing me to recover, forcing me to recover at their pace, not mine, theirs! They are trying to make me better and they have no idea how. Its like going into a heart transplant operation and the surgeon doesn't know what they are doing. I really am just about ready to die. I cannot go on like this! The don't understand what i am going through. They are not allowing me to do my maths exam on Monday. Well news flash bitches! I Will do it, no matter what! I will be going into that exam, doctors appointment or not!

Hospitilization

Parents are considering putting me in hospital for my eating or lack of it, and my self harm. Mum doesn't think the CAMHS guy is doing me any good but only making it worse. I do not believe that. Mum is going to be taking me to the doctors after my maths exam on Monday i think and hoping for them to diagnose me with anorexia, I am not 'thin' enough to be diagnosed.

Maybe hospitalization would be good for me? Even if it is just for a week or so. If I'm honest, i cant see my psychologist and doctor putting me in hospital because i am not "Severe" enough. Oh well, we shall wait and see!

New begginings or just a new downfall?

I want to start again, try to put everything behind me and recover from mental illness. Recover from self harm and eating disorders. I lost nearly my whole childhood to depression, low self esteem, self harm and eating disorders. I think it is time to claim it back.

I want to recover from my eating disorders and self harm, yet the eating disorder at the moment seems impossible to overcome. I am not "underweight" so i fear if i eat "correctly" then i will put weight on. It terrifies me. I don't want to do it. I keep telling myself, just a little more weight off then i can afford to put the weight back on, but truthfully, i will always say just a little more weight off then i will stop. In reality, it is better staying at the weight i am now instead of losing it and saying the infamous  "just a little more". Self harm seems to be the easiest of the two to overcome at the moment. Eating disorders and purging just brings fear into me when people mention how i have to eat "correctly". To me, it means putting on weight and then becoming "fat". I know i am not fat but my feelings of being HUGE and FAT and everything else negative over ride logic. I am trying to eat more, but the more i try that, the more i am lying. The more i am lying, the more weight i lose. It is a never ending battle between emotion and logic. Somehow the emotion beats the logic. There should be a handbook for this kind of thing!

On to the more pressing subject of the day, My parents have decided that i will eat every meal with them, i can chose how much it is, but i must eat my meal with them (only dinner). I can chose the meals, and i can chose how much goes on my dinner plate. Going to be sitting down with them tomorrow night planning next weeks "menu" of sorts. I am not going to kid myself, i am terrified. The thought of eating with my parents and other people in fact scares me, i don't know why.




I want a new beginning, something i can say "that was my turning point" , "that's when it started getting better". Something significant! I am debating whether to get my hair cut really short. Like Frankie's out of the Saturdays but i don't know if that's too drastic. Okay, yes it will signify a new beginning totally and hopefully the beginning of the end of mental illness, but the actual decision to do it is mind boggling. I want to do it so badly, but i have had my hair in a bob before and it looks horrible, mind you, i was 11st7 ish so i was chubby and my face had no definitions. Since i have lost a lot of weight i have definitions and it think it will look nice. May get my uncle to photo shop that hair onto me since he is amazing at it and does it for a living, you know, designing the lacoste logo, 'photoshopping' famous celebrities such as Kate moss. Who by the way, is wrinkle city without the magic touch of photo shop! Just sayin'

"Dont eat, i dont care!"

I just want to cry now. Just want to curl up in a ball and cry my heart out. My parents, i feel, ar slowly giving up on me. I know deep down they are not, but i cant help but feel like they are! They say to me "dont eat, i dont care". Even though we had a heart to heart the other day, in which i wanted to cry but it didnt. I started to cry because i felt like i am hurting them, ALOT! Dad said i am not, but i cant help but feel like i am. I see them cry when they found out about me self harming, That shows i hurt them! I see them worry constantly about my eating, so obviously i am hurting them.  I still feel like they dont understand; even though dad said he started to understand.

Got CAMHS on friday 18th, i want mum to come in so she can maybe start to understand what is going on with me and how i REALLY feel. I will try to convince myself it is okay for mum to go in and i will ignore the fact i think it will hurt her and for once, not worry how other people feel and veiw everything, and concentrate on how it will help me recover and how much my happiness will be affected.





After dinner....

I have to "snap out of this", Mum thinks CAMHS "put things into her head". I have said it isnt going to get better overnight, but she says it will and when is it going to get better? When im in hospital? Well FUCK HER! I could really go with disaperring of the face of the earth! I am trying so hard and all ig et is her and dad shouting at me! I feel like recovering isnt worth it, it isnt worth the effort if all i get is abuse. Well maybe, hospital would be good for me then, if thats what they want, i will put myself in hospital! How would they like that!?

What my summer used to consit of

When the summer holidays came around everyone was so exited. 6 weeks of complete freedom. 6 weeks of endless 'lay-ins', playing out everyday in the glorious sunshine, going to London and going on trips away in the good ol' British sunshine. It was a time we all looked forward too, what the school year built up to, along with non-uniform days.

Of course as i got older, the excitement of the 6 week holiday slowly disappeared. So now, my summer is what i dread. 6 weeks of inside time, depression, constant worry and emphasis on food, total freedom to self harm. No time to 'get away' from my problems. There maybe some days in which i enjoy, for example, holiday. 2 weeks of hot Hot HOT! however, i still find time to worry about food, even in the south of France! The days in which nothing was of worry, the 6 week Holiday was much awaited and excitable are far gone.

My summer holidays are boring and i remember, vividly, that out of the 6 week holiday just gone (thank god), i went out with my friends only about 3 times. The rest, i was stuck inside unable to distract myself from my troubles and so, i ended up in A&E. So, to keep myself occupied, i baked, which i love, i made YouTube videos, i did homework and i wallowed in my own sorrows.

Summer holidays are no longer a time of excitement and total utter freedom, but they are a time of boredom, and total utter entrapment. No place to escape within the freedom that i do own.

Do i annoy you?

My biggest fear in life is annoying the people i love. I feel like when i talk i annoy them and so i try not to talk and tell 'stories' of my lifes journeys. I feel they get bored so i over think and talk 6 million years to tell the blasted story.

The darkness is ever lasting, never ending. I am on a road to self desruction!

Self harm, purging, restricting, exercise. Thats all thats on my mind. Am i hungry? Have i eaten too much? When shall i purge my dinner? What shall i eat today? Its all that i seem to think about, even now, 10 past 9 pm i am thinking about what i will eat tomorrow. My 'safe' foods, i guess and the specifics. E.G. 1/8 Tomato pasta: 33.5 kcals, Alpen light cereal bar: 66 kcals, all in all thats 99.5 kcals. Sometimes it maybe more because i eat half a biscuit or some other things. I never go above 200 kcals during the week and sometimes i do during the weekend but i purge any huge meals i eat. It really sucks and it takes over my life! I dont stray far from what i consider 'safe' foods and i only eat the specific amount of 'safe' food that i deam to be 'safe'.

Concerning self harm, it usually happens when i am lost in a place i know so well, when i feel hopeless, when everything seems to be going wrong and i dont want to do anything. When getting out of bed is hard. When i am scared to walk out of my house in fear of doing something stupid or falling over. What life is that to lead? It can also happen when i am on the cusp of anger, when i am not too far gone with my anger that i can still come back. I dont want it to be like that and yet it is. Sometimes my anger can get so bad that no matter what i do, it doesn't work, i can cut deep, i can scream, i can get violent but nothing works. Sometimes i just have to sit it out or sleep, anything to calm me down.

Everything is getting on top of me and it is getting me down. I need my confidence to build and hopefully this job at argos will help. Meeting new people and such, new experiences.

Searching. Heart to Heart. Up your arse amy!

Imagine this. Your walking through a cave, its pitch dark and you cannot see anything. You are searching for the light. You are searching and searching becoming ever more desparate but you cant find it. You go around a corner and you see the exit. You run and run and run but the door seems to be closing. You get so close, but it closes and you have to turn around and search again. You find the next one and you run and run and you get there. Just. This journey can last for days, even weeks at a time and it repeats over and over. Sometimes you get out the first time, and sometimes you get out after the fifth exit.

Thats the only way i can describe how i feel now, i missed the first one and i am still searching for a way out without cutting the darkness out...



Had a little heart to heart with my parents yesterday. Told them how i feel constantly and how cutting seems to be the way out sometimes. Told them how i feel so lost, they said theyy understand a bit more now. Hopefully my job will help, a change of scene, new people, new experiences, new found confidence! HOPEFULLY. FINGERS CROSSED!

So tired of fighting with you

I am so tired of fighting with my troubles, so tired with fighting with my fear of food and failure! I wish i could just disappear because that seems the only way i can get rid of it all! My world is crumbling further and further! I am at the bottom of the hole but i am somhow falling!

4 facts about me that you dont know!

1) I have rode for england a number of times when i did BMX

2) I play the flute and piano

3) I am obsessed with Johnny get the gun

4) I love to bake and i could do it all day everyday!

Okay so my latest creation doesnt look to appetizing. But! the lighting on the camera isnt too good. It is a galaxy cookie crumble chocolate chunk and fudge cake. With some home made cookie chunks in it. The icing is fudge icing that taste devine (I only eat the remains in the tin and bowls, i never eat the cakes).

Baking is the one thing i love to do. It distracts me from self harming and depression and such. I do it nearly every weekend!

I wish i could cuddle in my mums arms and feel safe and tell her my troubles rather than push her away and tell her everythings okay. So good night my child!

I feel as if the old me has completely disappeared. It's like it never existed. Like one night i decided to say good night to the happy me and put myself through this sorrow! About 2 years ago i would never have thought i would be like i am now. I thought happiness lasted forever! I was totally ignorant to depression and never really knew what it was! I had no idea a human being could feel so lost and helpless in a place they know so well!

What also doesn't help is i have no one to talk to. No one who completely understands. When i try to talk to my friend about the self harm and depression and how low i feel all i get in response is "hmmm" or "O.o" I don't expect much back because it's hard to know what to say, but a little bit more than "hmm".

I feel like no one cares. I know i should be able to talk to my parents, but they don't understand at all. They try to help, bless 'em, but it's hard to open up to them. Hard to tell them how lost i feel, how much i want to die! I don't want to hurt them that much! I know me self harming is hurting them so much because they know they cant help me, and i guess they feel lost too. It is hard to tell them everything is not okay and i don't want them to be hurting like that! I hate seeing them cry, It makes me hate myself because i know i am the reason they have cried.

I want the old me back so badly. The one who smiled because she was happy and not because she is covering up the truth. The one who played, who got on with her sister. I don't want to be the one who smiles to cover up her true feelings. The one who hates going out. The one who doesn't get on with her sister, the one who is constantly angry. I don't want to feel like this anymore and sometimes i feel the only way out is to either commit suicide or cut myself! I don't like it. I really don't!

I wish i could tell people i am happy or okay because i mean it. Not because it's what they want to hear and what i need them to hear. I wish i could tell my parents how i really feel instead of lying to them all the time. I wish i wasn't afraid to show how i really feel. I wish it was okay (in my mind) to cry, to 'let it all out'. I wish i could cuddle in my mums arms and feel safe and tell her my troubles rather than push her away and tell her everythings okay. I feel so horrible when i do that. I push everyone who has ever cared about me away for fear they would discover the truth about how i feel and surcumb to the weakness that lies behind the 'strength' upon my face! I want it to go away, so i can no longer feel horrible and so i can bring people closer!

I am just a figure of your own imagination!

Although sometimes i love life and wonder why i ever want to give it up, at the same time, i think "why cant i just be a figure of every ones imagination" because that way, i would be perfect and what everybody wanted to see and hear and not this ugly, fat and pathetic excuse for a human being! I want all the negativity in my mind to go so i can be happy all the time.

I cant see anything good is going to come of me in the future, i cant see anyone wanting to be in a relationship with me, i wont get married, have sex or even just have fun! I cant even see anything good in the future! i haven't for a while! I cant see Christmas or the new year bringing anything but shit. I am so scared of the food on Christmas day and around Christmas. It's a time of joy for everyone else, but for me, its a time of fear, angst and purging! The only thing i am looking forward to is the presents. Having to eat around a dozen people at the dinner table eating food terrifies me. It shouldn't, but it does. And the new year, exams, exams and more exams. Oh don't forget prom! Exams: a time for me to convince myself i will fail everything. Prom: A time when i have to pretend i like the people i hate for the last time and dance with them, mingle and listen to all the shit they have to say! Oh and more food being eaten with the people i hate, and just more and more anxiety about the way i look and i can just imagine myself dropping for down me and GOD ITS ALL BOLLOCKS!

I like to plan my future so its how i want it to be, so i want to be a psychologist, so i plan how to get there and the ages i will be at the different stages. But then i think, i wont ever become one because i wont get the A-Levels i need, i wont get the degree i need at the right level and i wont become anything. I plan, i work for it and then i convince myself it wont happen. Then i don't see the point in trying, but i carry on and try as hard as i can to get the grades i want because i have such a massive fear of failure! Why do i have to constantly put myself down and tell myself i cant do it when i know, that, if i put my mind to it i can do what i want and better?! I have proved it before, when i got an A in chemistry! I was so adamant i wouldn't get the A because i had convinced myself i didn't know anything. But when the results came back a few months later, i was ecstatic and thought i was invincible and i would get the grades i want! but when it came to focusing on other exam, i convince myself i would do it and never will be good enough!

In a huge contradiction, when i tell myself i cant do it and never will it makes me even more determined to do it and prove myself wrong! work that out!

why cant anything just be easy for once in a while!? Just once i would like an easy option where i know whole heartedly i can do it!

Now the ladies of the harem of the court of King Catactacus, were just passing by.

Having a bad time. It's as if i have nothing to look forward to. It bugs me. I feel like chirstmas will bring nothing but crap. Urgh

Eating with my parents

my parents want me to eat with them every night now. I dont want to, i want to cry. It scares me, it scres me to even anticipate putting on weight. I want to die, get away from eating with my parents, yet im too scared, i know people love me and i dont want to leave them. I am going to get worse by eating with my parents. YAY!

so tired of fears

There are so many people who suffer from ill health. Mentally and psyically. Yet you get up every morning and get dressed, get washed, eat, sleep, and have no worries. I wish i was like you, i wish i could get up every morning and not worry. Live life to the full. But i cant, now spare a thought for people like me, people who struggle to live.

Long time no see

I want to move, move away from where i live. Move miles away. Make new friends, be happy. I want to move away from where my problems lie and meet new people and get away from my so called friends (well only one friend that is a cow and tells me i dont know anything). Maybe when im off to university, it will help and i will meet new wonderful people and it shall help me alot. Well we shall se in 3 years eh?

Smile and give a little.

The thing is, my smile is often a false pretence, out there to fool people into thinking im okay, Maybe sometimes its a good thing, so at school or job interview, but at home maybe i should show how i feel more, open up to people and then they may be able to help. I dont feel like i can complain about how i feel to anyone because i dont show them and would refuse to tell them how i feel anyway. So what does it matter if i do complain to people about feel pretty shit, they wouldnt be able to help because i wouldnt tell them the truth. I would just shrug my shoulders and say nothing or i dont know.

It is quite sad how my psychiatrist knows more about how i feel and what i do to get rid of these emotions, than my parents do. I want my mum to come in on friday but i dont want her to be there all the time, so i can have a little time to myself to tell him the rest of what i left out with mum.

I am alone in my hour of need

I just feel like my friends dont want to know anymore. I try to organise to go ice skating, but they all seem to be busy, ones revising, ones going to oxford (which i know about ages ago) and the other is going out for a meal at 11am? Also when i try to go out with one specific friend, she always goes, is such an such coming and if i say no, she wont come out. Its like, am i not good enough anymore. Is my company boring? So when i need my friends support the most, they all dont seem to want to know! Nice eh?

Maybe i will wallow in my own pitty for a week, and all i do is maybe go to a concert (even though i have paid:/) which starts at 6:30 and we are leaving at about 5:30 due to one of the girls sisters only finishing at 5, then getting to the train station at the train will prob be at 6 to get to london (take 1.5 hours from my place). So we will prob get there at 8, then the concert finishes at 10. So im undecided on that one, mum thinks it will be stupid because we will be around islington untill about 10:30 if we cant get in, in one way i want to go because it will be fun, but in another way, i dont want to go because of timing and i have lost all interest in going to see my ALL TIME favorite band due to depression etc etc...

Oh i dont know, i will prob end up going, just to get out. But urgh!

Now i been invited to the cinema, but i dont know if i want to go, i might, again, just wallow in my own pitty! I want to go real bad, but im just really really down about my self harm/purgin episode and just generally down!

And my friend has just got a job, which she didnt apply for, her dad applied for her. Well he asked a lady who worked there to get her this job, and i think she shouldnt have because she didnt apply for it and what not, and she is going on about how she might have to work and she may have an induction and just all round rubbing it in, like she does. Now i will NEVER hear the end of it! FML! it is jealousy because i NEED the money really really bad and she gets it because she knows someone there and it pisses me off! OH well,, only 2 years left of that shit face!

Its the vicious cycle. AGAIN!

Im back in that cycle. I did it before and got out of it before and swore i would never do it again, but yesterday, it started up again. Purging, i meen. So i struggled for a little while about a year ago, maybe not quite a year, maybe a couple months, but anyhow, i've started again and its hard for me to control. I have only done it twice since this recent episode (yesterday and today as well as SH) but it will start the vicious cycle again, of eat dinner/a meal, and purge it. I dont even binge, i just purge what i ate. My parents dont know and i dont want they too. What am i going to do!?

Purgeing isnt all that fun

I had the urge to throw up my dinner today. I havant done that in ages, and yet, today, i felt like i had to! I dont even know why, it isnt all that fun anyway! I'm really striggling at the moment. My self harm urges are getting worse and harder to ignore and now this! OMFG!

Runnaways, cousin gone for 24 hours!

My cousin has been missing for over 24 hours now. The police cant do anything because 1)when they got in contact with him, he told them he was on his way home and 2) his parents know roughly where he is. He is like a brother to me, we do literally everything together, You name it we have probably done it. I am trying to be really strong for my family but inside i want to break down. My self harm urges are gettin stronger by the hour and i am finding it really hard to cope. Hopefully he will be back, but this time, it is very unlikely. He has gone before, but for only and hour or two and not an enitre night. He has been with his friends all day and all night, but soon they will get fed up and he will have no one. He claims he has 8 and half months worth of living arangements, but after that... nothing! He either has 8 friends for 1 month or 26 friends for 1 week. He has put a missive strain on my auntie and uncles relationship over the 9 years i have know him and sometimes maybe it would be better off for him and their relationship if he was put back into care! What he doesnt realise is they didnt have to take him out of care. He thinks they hate him and he hates them.

I want him back!

I concour with you entirly...

Its funny how the first time that blade separated my skin was to feel pain but the last time i separated my skin, it was to rid the pain! I can safely say i am far from recovered but i am working on it. I will never forget the first time i picked up the blade nor will i forget the last but the last is yet to come. The first has already been but the last will be in the for-see-able future.

I will recover from self harm and i will not be ashamed, afterall, each scar has its memory, no matter how painfull that was. It will remind me of the struggles i overcame!

It amazes me how people take happiness for granted. They dont realise that one day, the happy days could be rare and never seen! they will then wonder where that happiness went and will want it back and will try so hard for something they cannot control! so life lesson #1: dont take happiness for granted. You never know when you will lose it and when you do, you wont realise you had something precious!

If i were to die today, would anyone care, would there be any kind words to say or would they just stand and stare?

I have had numerous suicidal thoughts this week. I dont know why but i hsve felt like it would be better if i was just dead. The way people talk to me and treat me. There one person in particular that always talks down to me as if im shit! she's so patronising! but she is my best friend and knows everything about me, and vise versa! i couldnt imagine my life without her.

I want to live, but sometimes i just want to die

Job interviews

Had 2 job interviews this week. One for next and one for argos. The next on wasnt to bad because it was one on one, however, the argos on was a group interview. I had to introduce someone at first and i could feel my heart pounding in my cheast and i was sweaty and i had to force my voice out and somehow form words within that! Then later on i had to present a 'super human employee'. Basically he/she had to have the ideal employee presented in super hero form. I did this wil 3 other people and, again, when speaking i had to force my words out and i went red and felt my heart pounding. It was horrible!

I see things and you think your odd!

Never told this to anyone, not even my psychologist (i plan to tell him though). I see circles and polygons and lately a bird. I know it isnt just a shaddow because i see it indoors too where there is no shadows etc. They are black and rather odd. I cant explain it to anyone as they will probably look at me like WTH!? and not believe me. I plan to tell my psych next friday at our meeting. I have also heard voices once or twice. Sometimes it has repeted what other people has said and other times its is just sounds and nothing makes sense. It is very rare and i havant heard it in months, but y'no, it counts right.

Cut out my heart and throw it away!

The urge to cut is getting stronger and stronger. I need the pain. C'mon girl, pull yourself together and dont let it cut out your heart!

Had a bit of a binge. I dont like it!

Life stinks.

Being called ugly is not fun. Especially when the wanker hasn't used the correct word but you know what they mean. It fucking sucks! It puts you down so much.

Looking at my arms and wanting the blade to damage my delicate skin. I have space left. But thats all a lie. I dont have space left to self harm. I dont even know anymore. I want to get my hands on a blade and ruin what was once perfect. I want to but i wont; it isnt the right way to go about it. It isnt the right way to sort my problems, but i cant help it, its what i know and will probably always know. I want it too stop. I could just cry!

Why? ponderings on god

Why is it that we always refure to god as a man? when in the bible (supposedly god own word through man) it shows no preference towards man or woman. How could a specific gender create the opposite gender with such great knowledge. It would have to be outside of physics, outside of everything we know of to do this. Maybe we just put it into a man because 1) we are scared of what we don't understand and therefore categorise it into something we do and 2) when the word of god started when we lived in a very patriarchal society and the man was the head of the house and the most powerful, so if god is the most powerful being (if in fact he is a being) then we would automatically associate it with a man. I don't know, that's just what we discussed in philosophy and ethics today!

Oh and when people (bible bashers) tell homosexual people that the bible says it is wrong to be homosexual they are correct, it does. In the 3rd book of the bible. But it also says in the paragraph after it that speaking back to your parents is wrong and you shall be stoned to death, it also says that adultery and idolisation is a sin and you shall be stoned to death. So these people are ignoring the rest and only using the bits they want so they can preach. When this is hypocritical. They cannot say they have never been rude to their parents! As Jesus said to someone who told him he was doing wrong by not saying a woman who had committed adultery had to be stoned to death: "the first person to throw the rock, first tell me that you have not sined, from the eldest" so he was saying the eldest person here must first tell me he has never sined, now this would be hard because no one can never sin, so the crowds dropped their stones and left. Jesus said to this woman never do it again basically.



N.B. I am not christian nor do i believe in god so this is a athiests point of view. Dont be offended.

The shadows are here. Again.

I keep seeing black shapes in the corners of my vision. They are usually circles and polygons but lately i have had a new figure. A bird... I saw it for the first time yesterday, in english it flew over the boundaries of my top vision. I darted my head up to once again, see nothing. It really frustrates me. If what my biology teacher says is correct that our brain makes things up to NOT be there to protect us, then why does mine make things up to BE there? I have not taken any halucenagenics (well as far as i know) so why do i see things? It really is quite disturbing!

My recovery promise...

Recovery is stronger than any suicidal thought/ideation and it is stronger than the sensation of cutting! I will recover for my own sake and i will have a story to tell at the end. Recovery is what i live for and no matter how long it takes, 1 year, 2 years, 3 years etc. I will strive for recovery!

I will not listen to those voice inside my head who control me. I will push them as far away as possible and hope they never return. I do anticipate bad days/weeks/months, but i will not let that stop me in my path to recovery. I will take them as a building block in my recovery and i will come out stronger on the other end. I shall one day, put down that blade and never touch it again. Whether that be in a year or 2 years or longer. I will one day never need any use of that blade.

Each scar has its own story and i intend to share it with my future family. I wont hide it from them, i will be open and make sure they can tell me about any problems that may succumb in their life!

Thank you and good night.





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Who am I?

Well that is a question i sometimes ask myself, but i will tell you what i know. My names amy and i am 16 years old. I self harm and am currently in recovery. I have been self harming for about 18months and only began recovery after ending up in A&E :S

My parents only knew of one episode before i ended up in A&E and simply told me to stop. Of course i didnt. From then on i would constantly hide it for the next 9 months ish. I went to A&E with my friend and my parents found out when a letter cam through from the psychiatrist i saw. I now go to CHAMS every 2 weeks.

I was bullied for 2 years and if only the girl knew the repercusions of what they did. Of course i cant blame it all on them because there were other things going on such as i was falling into depression and extremly low body confidence; of which i never got over. I will never deny what happened and i will never forget nor totally forgive. They almost ruined my life.

Of everything I have ever regret doing, making that first cut is on the top of that list. For the past 18months i have been cutting nearly every day. I have also developed eating disorders and servere social anxiety, prom is over 6 months away and i am dreading it already. Cutting has caused many problems within my life and in a way i like who i am now because i know what it is like to hit rock bottem and somehow keep on falling, i also will never take happiness for granted because happiness is hard to come by.!